#WednesdayWisdom: Better Late

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So I ran around doing errands today, and it was less fun than I expected. It’s stressful to try to maintain distance, especially when other people aren’t considerate. People who don’t take turns.

One guy reached right next to me in the meat case, and I had to tell him he was too close. He looked surprised. He didn’t apologize.

It’s a strange world where our well-being can depend upon people who really don’t care. Whose thought at making someone ill would be a mere shrug. Who think the rules somehow do not apply to them.

Who’d have thought the apocalypse would be so fun?

And so while I thought it would be good to be out for a while, it turns out I just couldn’t wait to get home, where I’ve been for weeks now. And yet, with the internet, it doesn’t feel so limited.

Anyway, I hope you’re doing well and taking care of yourself. Have a fantastic Wednesday, however much Wednesday you have left.


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Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
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#WednesdayWisdom: Normalcy and no more

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Went to the grocery store and when someone stood two feet away from me, instead of six, I felt my space had been invaded. I never would have noticed him before, but now, when he reached in front of me to close a fridge door someone else had left ajar, it was though he’d touched me.

Strange times.

Stocks were good though, I think the buying frenzy has softened, now that people know the stores will be there and supplies will be there. I shop for my parents as well, working through their list and I wonder if people assume I’m hoarding.

Maybe.

So yesterday was about trying something new while we’re in this uncertain landscape, and I couldn’t think of what I wanted to try. But I think it will be this: I think I will reach out more. How hard can that be?

Possibly very.

So here’s the next thing. What’s something you want to give up? It can be resolution-like if that works for you, quitting smoking, perhaps, eating healthier foods while at home and giving up the more processed stuff.

It can be more abstract. I’m currently adoring and charmed by “Dispatches from Elsewhere,” a show with just the exact right tone for now, and if you’re not watching it you should, you can stream it on AMC. One of the lines really hit me: “It’s OK to be wrong.”

You can start something, try something, whatever you want, and it’s OK to be wrong.

Freeing.

That’s my thing. Letting go of the stigma of being wrong.

Look at that, it’s a long one today. Have a wonderful Wednesday.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
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Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#WednesdayWisdom: Wisdomless

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I was out in the world today, not more than recommended, mind you, but for the essentials, getting groceries for myself and my parents. The stores weren’t frenzied, they weren’t packed, but the shelves were bare in places, the produce gone in large swathes.

People tried to give other people space, and it seems creativity will dominate cooking for the foreseeable future.

There was no flour.

Absolutely no flour.

It mad me sad, if you want the truth, sad for what we’ve lost, some things incrementally, some all at once. Sad to feel the energy in the air, the uncertainty, the tentative smiles.

Sad that, in the face of the apocalypse, the thing we hold most dear is toilet paper.

Which there is none of, by the way.

This era feels like a foreign land, ground shifted beneath our feet, all the while we were yelling “no” into a void soundproofed with money. Oh how they love that money, those people who coax the void, who nurture it, who are it, deep inside.

Void and money.

So here we and here we’ll be until they tell us it’s safe to come out. And maybe some of those “give him a chance” people will finally learn there are some chances some people should never have.

That much should have been obvious.

Have a good rest of your Wednesday.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#WednesdayWisdom: Here we go

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So now we know. There’s only one candidate, functionally, left that can shine a light on this darkness.

Shine on.

I’ve been thinking a lot about politeness lately, the kind of politeness bullies push right through. The kind of politeness they rely upon.

The kind of politeness predators rely upon. That talking about what they’ve done is worse than their doing it. That consequences for actions should fall on people other than the doer.

That’s not going to work anymore. I think most women feel that it’s not going to work anymore. The reality is we know we will be called shrill and not nice and unlikable no matter what we do so we might as well get on with doing it.

We will be seen as too this or too that or not enough this or that, and to that I say a hearty “who cares?” The social constraints that kept us moored were slashed to threads in 2016.

Say what you think. We have a world to save, and that’s not even hyperbole.

Have a great Wednesday.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#WednesdayWisdom: Forward Now

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Let’s be clear: there is no perfection. There’s no nirvana, there’s no getting our way completely and without compromise.

Such are the ways of the world.

The thing we need now, the thing we need most of all, is to end this gloomy, dystopian chapter before it takes hold, before its roots spread deep and wide, before it is no longer a chapter but the entire story.

You can tell yourself that your protest against forward motion is meaningful, and that the meaning isn’t fertilizing the tunneling roots, isn’t giving them water, isn’t giving the monster the very air it needs to survive. You can tell yourself that.

But it would be a lie.

It is forward, or stay here. It is forward or feed the beast. It is forward or you are the thing that gives the beast life.

Now isn’t a time for children. Now isn’t a time for stomping feet and wagging, whiny fingers. Now isn’t a time to demand a single glass shard of unbroken perfection, while around us the ruins of our democracy lie smoldering.

Now is the time to gather with intention, to stand together and proclaim, in one voice, “This ends now.”

Fight the good fight and have a great Wednesday.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#WendesdayWisdom: Boundaries

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Boundaries are a necessary part of life. They’re not complicated, really. If someone has set one, respect it; if you have set one, honor it and don’t feel bad about enforcing it.

See? Not complicated.

For women, particularly, boundaries can prove difficult, as we are trained to put the feelings of others above our own, and to be “polite.” Somehow, carving space for ourselves is not “polite.” Deciding what is acceptable for ourselves, or what we do or do not want in our lives is not “polite.”

Well.

Screw that.

Social media, ironically has made setting boundaries all the easier, because if someone violates one, all you have to do is block. Or mute, if you prefer. Inner peace in one click.

Don’t feel guilty about boundaries. They’re healthy and necessary. And pay attention when others set them, they have them for a reason.

Now go have a fantastic Wednesday.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#WednesdayWisdom: Wordless

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Not speechless. Just currently not in the possession of words. Which is not a great position for, you know, a writer.

It happens to all of us sometimes, though. The rivers of thought go dry, and the beds seem picked clean. Any debris there is tangled and uninteresting.

Maybe the answer is more coffee.

And yet I haven’t gotten more coffee.

Quite the dilemma. Only one that’s easily fixed.

It’s brightly sunny today, the kind of day that makes you think spring is possible, only it’s laughing at us because it’s still pretty cold. Ha ha, is all the wind has to say.

The wind in Chicago has a mean streak.

I’m off to rummage around for a vocabulary, wherever one can be found. You have the most wonderful of Wednesdays.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.