I’ve had to ask myself multiple times today if it is, in fact, Monday, because I feel like we did Monday already this week. I guess that’s how it’s going to go.
Good luck to us.
It’s sunny and cold, about 27 F (-2.7 C) and today I am thinking about white men who consider themselves dedicated to “the fight.”
This was sparked by a post of a man wearing a t-shirt confronting white women for their support of donald. And yes, to be specific, white women Christian women are a big problem (Jewish women, who are frequently white, were second only to Black women when voting for Harris).
But it always feels nails on the chalkboard when I see a white man coming for white women.
Deal with your own demographic FIRST.
Because it’s always easy to come for women, right? But they’re not so bold with their bros.
And to be clear and reiterate, because there is always someone, I am talking specifically about white men going after white women. Not other groups talking about white women.
White men.
Every single time a white man thinks about going after white women, he should pause and put that energy toward a fellow white man.
Because here is the truth of the situation. As problematic as white women can be, they are not the ones driving the bus. They’re not even being allowed to be anywhere near the driver’s seat by republicans. Ask Marge.
White men, by and large, voted this in. White men, by and large, are keeping it going. White men are the ones in those congressional seats, hacking away at the foundations of democracy.
And people are always so quick to dismiss this point, and say “they won’t change,” “it doesn’t do anything,” “it’s always been like that” but I think the reasons for that are threefold.
- Protecting the patriarchy. Because people do it reflexively; people do it knowingly; people do it because they have the urge to do it and they don’t examine why. Preventing conversation about the real issue and the primary culprits maintains the status quo.
- Misogyny. Everyone hates women, no matter the political stripe. I mean look at the nicknames for that person in charge of ICE. Not that I care what people call her, but, as a friend had to point out to me, why aren’t there similar ones for the war guy?
- Fear of retribution. Calling out the power structure when you’re talking about the actual people with the power can be unsettling and can have repercussions. Even if you’re one of them. Maybe especially if you’re one of them. It’s so much easier to call out the people adjacent to the power with no real ability to harm you.
The other thing is white men get cheers and pats on the back for attacking white women, again, probably because of the misogyny, and no one seems to notice that they aren’t calling out their peers. So if they do call out their peers, they lose social standing, but if they call out women, they gain it.
That’s enough of a rant for a Monday morning, I hope you have a great day, and where to best direct your energy for actual change.
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