Came across a ridiculous mansplainer on twitter today, one who fully admitted he hadn’t seen the material yet still questioned comedian Hannah Gadsby’s take on the hate of the special and the hate she receives.
He told me to “be a kind person.”
When I pointed out that he’d piled on the vitriol aimed at her by gaslighting her and assuming she was wrong, he asked me to point out where he’d piled on the vitriol.
Basically the second half of the sentence. The second half OF THE VERY SAME SENTENCE.
It’s endless, isn’t it, this flood of men who assume they know everything even when they freely admit they don’t know what they’re talking about, yet assume it still has to be more accurate, more truthful, more real than whatever a woman says.
Maybe I’m extra edgy, maybe I’m extra fatigued, but “Be a kind person?”
What does that mean to a mansplainer? Don’t point it out? Smile and nod?
Don your red cloak and bonnet there’s a good girl?
“Be a kind person.”
Screw that. I’ll be THE kind OF person who musses up blissful entitlement. Hope you’ll do the same, people of all genders. Have a great Friday and a fabulous weekend.
I’m thinking a lot about the relationship between religion and money lately, even before starting the documentary series The Way Down on HBOMax. I don’t understand how people can claim to embrace a religion which, as one of its core values, shuns greed and materialism, and turn around and worship these “leaders” who are amassing a fortune.
L. Ron Hubbard once supposedly said “You don’t get rich writing science fiction. If you want to get rich, you start a religion.” I can confirm the first part. I’m vaguely considering the second.
That’s where my mind is today, I guess, deeply mired in the hypocrisy people tell themselves is morality.
At least it’s something else to think about.
Meanwhile, we’ve hit October, if you can believe it, in this year that seems like it barely started. October.
Obviously for me, the last six-plus weeks have been a blur, but I didn’t expect the planet to cooperate. I do think we’re easing into Fall though. Really easing. High of 80 today.
That’s it for me this week, I hope you have a lovely Friday and a marvelous weekend.
After more than 18 months, I finally went back to the Art Institute yesterday. There I saw the Obama Portraits and exhibition of the work of Bisa Butler, a textile artist whose work is like nothing I’ve ever seen.
Using all fibers, she creates the most revealing portraits of people. What I couldn’t get over were the eyes of her subjects, as a alive as a photograph or a painting.
But all fabric.
Here is a thread about the visit; I still have many more pictures so another may still be to come.
But the most amazing thing about the trip was the general vibe. Everyone was so happy to be there. People were friendly and chatty in the exhibits, people were friendly and chatty in the gift shop.
As much as we’ve seen about people being awful, it’s like everyone decided to to make that tiniest bit of extra effort to be warm, to be kind. To enjoy talking to people they’ve never seen before.
With all the awful that has come out of the former guy and the rise of hate, no one talks about the other side effect: the strengthening of kinship among the rest of us who are not like that and reject that mentality completely.
And that’s it for me this week. Have a great Friday and a fantastic weekend.