#FridayThoughts: When a mansplainer says “Be a kind person.”

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Came across a ridiculous mansplainer on twitter today, one who fully admitted he hadn’t seen the material yet still questioned comedian Hannah Gadsby’s take on the hate of the special and the hate she receives.

He told me to “be a kind person.”

I mean.

When I pointed out that he’d piled on the vitriol aimed at her by gaslighting her and assuming she was wrong, he asked me to point out where he’d piled on the vitriol.

Basically the second half of the sentence. The second half OF THE VERY SAME SENTENCE.

It’s endless, isn’t it, this flood of men who assume they know everything even when they freely admit they don’t know what they’re talking about, yet assume it still has to be more accurate, more truthful, more real than whatever a woman says.

Maybe I’m extra edgy, maybe I’m extra fatigued, but “Be a kind person?”

What does that mean to a mansplainer? Don’t point it out? Smile and nod?

Don your red cloak and bonnet there’s a good girl?

“Be a kind person.”

Screw that. I’ll be THE kind OF person who musses up blissful entitlement. Hope you’ll do the same, people of all genders. Have a great Friday and a fabulous weekend.


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Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
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#FridayThoughts: Buy my books

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I don’t have time for a full blog today so what better than a shameless plug?

An UTTERLY SHAMELESS PLUG??

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And have a great weekend and a fantastic Friday.

#FridayThoughts: On starting my own cult.

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I’m thinking a lot about the relationship between religion and money lately, even before starting the documentary series The Way Down on HBOMax. I don’t understand how people can claim to embrace a religion which, as one of its core values, shuns greed and materialism, and turn around and worship these “leaders” who are amassing a fortune.

L. Ron Hubbard once supposedly said “You don’t get rich writing science fiction. If you want to get rich, you start a religion.” I can confirm the first part. I’m vaguely considering the second.

That’s where my mind is today, I guess, deeply mired in the hypocrisy people tell themselves is morality.

At least it’s something else to think about.

Meanwhile, we’ve hit October, if you can believe it, in this year that seems like it barely started. October.

Obviously for me, the last six-plus weeks have been a blur, but I didn’t expect the planet to cooperate. I do think we’re easing into Fall though. Really easing. High of 80 today.

That’s it for me this week, I hope you have a lovely Friday and a marvelous weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
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#FridayThoughts: Slight change. Well maybe not slight.

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So it’s Friday. My mom was moved to a hospital that also does rehab, we haven’t seen her there yet. We had to wait until she had yet another COVID test.

It’s much further away, so a complicated situation is now more complicated.

Such is life right now.

It’s still chilly here, I think. It was supposed to be warmer today, but I’m not feeling it. Just checked, we’re supposed to go up to the 70s.

So that’s nice.

I don’t have much to say, I’m hanging on by what’s left of my fingernails. I’m sure you know what that’s like.

And I’m sorry you know what that’s like.

And that’s it for me this week. I hope you have a wonderful Friday and a truly enjoyable weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird and FREE!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#FridayThoughts: Incremental both ways.

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It’s been a long, very rocky week. The ups and downs happen from minute to minute.

At some point, I’ll write about it.

But this is not that point.

All I know is one way or another, it’s suddenly Friday and we’re suddenly more than halfway through September in a year that is suddenly 3/4s over.

So very very strange.

And that is it for me this week, I hope you have a good Friday and a great weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird and FREE!
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Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#FridayThoughts: Things are very rough right now.

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And that’s about all I have to say.

I hope you have a good weekend.

#FridayThoughts: You never know when you’re in the before.

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Well here we are, Friday. My days now consist of rushed getting things done before going to visit at the hospital, and then exhaustion when I get back.

Not the best of times.

Today I think it’s gray, possibly rainy, I’m really not sure. Except when walking outside, I’m not noticing what kind of day it is. They’re all just blurring.

It’s been a long two-and-a-half weeks.

It’s weird to think how suddenly this all happened, how quickly there’s a before and after.

Now “before” is a distant land, one we will never see again, disappeared over the horizon. No amount of ruminating over it will change it either.

And that’s it for me this week. I hope you have a great Friday and a fantastic long weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird and FREE!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#FridayThoughts: Not much to say so read what I’ve already said

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In my books.

Here, start with Aunty Ida!

Or any of the others!

#FridayThoughts: Jet planes.

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Well, fighter jets, anyway.

They’re practicing for the Air & Water Show, which starts tomorrow. It’s weird. I’ve always had issues with celebrating the pageantry of war, but the timing this year is particularly bad.

Particularly.

And not just personally. As I said earlier in the week, I’ve had family stuff, and though I will talk about it, I’m not yet ready to talk about it. At least not on the blog.

Maybe elsewhere.

This is our tiny corner where we try to keep most of reality at bay, at least for a snippet of a read.

Anyway, that’s it for me this week. Have a great Friday and a wonderful weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird and FREE!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.

#FridayThoughts: Museum vibe and the mind-blowing work of Bisa Butler

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After more than 18 months, I finally went back to the Art Institute yesterday. There I saw the Obama Portraits and exhibition of the work of Bisa Butler, a textile artist whose work is like nothing I’ve ever seen.

Using all fibers, she creates the most revealing portraits of people. What I couldn’t get over were the eyes of her subjects, as a alive as a photograph or a painting.

But all fabric.

Here is a thread about the visit; I still have many more pictures so another may still be to come.

But the most amazing thing about the trip was the general vibe. Everyone was so happy to be there. People were friendly and chatty in the exhibits, people were friendly and chatty in the gift shop.

As much as we’ve seen about people being awful, it’s like everyone decided to to make that tiniest bit of extra effort to be warm, to be kind. To enjoy talking to people they’ve never seen before.

With all the awful that has come out of the former guy and the rise of hate, no one talks about the other side effect: the strengthening of kinship among the rest of us who are not like that and reject that mentality completely.

And that’s it for me this week. Have a great Friday and a fantastic weekend.


Check out  my full-length novels: 
Aunty Ida’s Full-Service Mental Institution (by Invitation Only)   
Aunty Ida’s Holey Amazing Sleeping Preparation (Not Doctor Recommended) 
Her Cousin Much Removed
The Great Paradox and the Innies and Outies of Time Management.
And download Better Living Through GRAVY and Other Oddities, it’s quick and weird and FREE!
Peruse Montraps Publishing
Like my political side? Read my opinion pieces here.